When the going gets tough, the tough get going?? Sometimes we need help beyond what we are able to do ourselves. I have found myself at this cross roads in life.
My son and I need to relocate to Michigan as soon as possible but need financial help to do so. My resources are limited so I really need help to make this happen for him. I am actively saving, saving, saving but on a fixed income that makes it a long process but I'm sticking to the "plan".
My ex husband is currently in the hospital with a large tumor *3 tumors in left lung and cancer throughout his body* He also has a pulmonary embolism which is compressed by one of the tumors and the embolism could rupture at any time. He has lung cancer and is terminal in the final stage and only expected to live for one month or less. The doctor wants him to go into the hospitals hospice for care in his final days due to the seriousness of his situation. He is going to die at anytime, it is just a matter of time and heartbreak for my child. I can provide information if necessary to confirm the situation.
Where we live we have no family or emotional support. My twelve year old son wants to go back to Michigan where we do have the emotional support we need and the love family and friends can provide for him. I am here for him 24/7 but it is still very difficult just being the two of us.
It would be such a blessing if maybe someone could help financially so that we can move and make this happen! Any little bit would be a blessing and appreciated beyond belief. I am currently collecting money orders and putting them away to save the money up that is needed to move. The UHaul is $989. for a 10 foot truck, $129.00 for the truck insurance plan and gas, food and hotels while traveling. I am only taking what we absolutley must have which does not include large furniture only the things we cannot part with. Well enough of my moving woes and rambling. Just hoping for help I guess is the entire point. :)
I am saving all the money I can but it just isn't enough to move from the Seattle area to the upper peninsula of Michigan. Please understand our situation and prayers would also be appreciated.
Never in a million years should anyone's child go through what my son is enduring and all I want is for him to be happy and emotionally stable with support of loved ones.
From my heart to yours, Thank you for any help offered.
Hey. That is such a cute dog in your profile picture. I love small dogs. I wish I could have pets were I live. They said i could have fish but who wants a fish. You cant pet it or walk it or play with it.
in response to bookworm2011...My family doesn't like it when there are no snacks either, but I have weaned them off of them almost entirely now, because, the truth is, it won't hurt them to not eat sweets. In fact, sugar is the major cause of most sickness, since it is poison, and kicks the heck out of our immune systems! I'm so glad the green tea and stevia help you! It IS hard to remember to drink all that water, since you are a busy lady! Hang in there and it WILL come off!
in response to Bee's Knees...No Worries! That happens to me every once in a while too..I got a little bummed because the past two days I saw an increase of 6 ounces but then realized that I had stopped drinking all the water..I made myself drink the required glasses today and we will see what the scale says tmw..Ive found drinking some green tea with the sweetner completely takes care of any cravings when I cook for my family. I tried to eliminate boxed and packaged sweets so I must endure the baking treats for them since Im the one who got myself into this by telling them they need to eat healthier, homemade snacks! Thank you again for the support! I hope that things are well with you and your family..
char
in response to bookworm2011...Hi, Char. Sorry for the delay in answering. Ever notice how Aip sometimes tells you there are messages, then, after you open and read one, it tells you there are no more? I just ran across this message from you that I never even read before, so I'm assuming that is what happened.
I know. It is sooooo hard to cook or bake for others when you are not allowed to have any! But, when you are in the zone, you are in the zone!
Keep going! You CAN get down to the pre-baby weight again! I did.
I can't wait to see the after picture!
in response to Bee's Knees...Dear Bee's Knee's:
Thank you for your answr and taking the time to set me along the right reason why I am here. We all can use the help at times and me I am looking for an angel, for a long time now have been putting it in prayer to have a family car for my family of one child. this is one reason why I am looking into the grants and see where the Creator will guide me too. Once again thank you for your time... Close with love and peace... StrongBear
in response to georgette7...Thanks, Georgette. I do think it helps when people can see it is a real need, and that it goes directly to pay that need, instead of just a random person's account. Scammers have been here and tricked people into giving them lots of money in the past. We've lost many good contributors because of that. When new contributors join, and ask me how to tell which people have real needs, a good rule of thumb is seeing that some needs are real and having proof (like when the bill is paid directly.) so you have a good point.
in response to Bee's Knees...i just wanted to make sure no one was thinking that they would be sending the funds to me.i know all of you on the site whom are helpping are doing things as you can.i was reading things on the site befor posting.you are doing a great job with all repiles
in response to georgette7...What I am saying is that money is not often exchanged here in any way (direct gifts, grants, paying of bills, etc...) I understand you are asking for tax help. Everyone seems to be struggling right now, especially this time of year. Many are disabled, homeless, have no food, etc....
We have no idea which contributors happen to be reading the posts and are financially able and willint to help. Sometimes this does happen, but most of the time, we try to swap helpful info, resources for help through different organizations, etc...(usually the people who need help the very most are helped in those cases)
We have no access to any cash other than whatever we each earn via our own jobs.
Many times people have the misconception that we work for a large corporation and are able to distribute funds from a large account.
I hope this information helps.
I wish I could be of more help.
I know how it feels to be hassled for payments due.
God bless you.
in response to StrongBear...Hello, StronBear,
I was losing my house when I found this site. I was not sure what it was at first. I have never been given a grant here. I found out the people here help one another as they can. Some have been given cash assistance by other members, but mostly I see people giving one another support and information. Many contributors have taken the time to research different topics and are able to point others in the right direction for help.
in response to seekinghelp2012...Consolidating debts is rarely the best way to go in trying to reduce your debt levels. Best thing to do is to develope a budget and a plan and stick to it.
Does anyone know of a place to consolidate debts for persons with bad credit. I would even consider peer to peer lending if there are any wealthy individuals willing to help a single, graduate student, with a full time job. I've suffered some financial misfortunes but I'm trying to get back on track. I need about $50,000 and I can comfortably pay be $450 - $550 per month. Please help in any way that you can and it will be greatly appreciated.
Hello Sis just wanted to introduce my self first; I am StrongBear. You have been here from the time of 2010 and was wondering why you came to this site was it like me looking for grants? Ofcourse, with your permission I am asking of you. My reason is to find out if this site does help us, for I am looking for grants too... Please for give me if I sounded bold just wanted to know what is up with our site here? :) thanks for even reading this, close with love and peace... StrongBear
in response to georgette...We can help you with ideas about how to find resources for aid, but we cannot guarantee you will be gifted cash. Each of us gives as we are able.
needing help with taxs,home inc.,food,household items.these are the first main things i need to take care of.i put up a request on the home page.what help we get that would be great.anyone can make the main payment to whom it goes to
in response to Bee's Knees...if you have a need you can just let someone either pay it to the sorce or just get you the item you need.that is what i am looking for someone to do.i am not asking for cash in my hand just help.and that's whatever help i can get.i will still try to do things on my own.do not mean to sound mean but that's how i fell
i have been to places to get help.the only thing they would tell me is that we can not help you at this time.
in response to hoffa...HCG is fairly cheap and fast, although, to make it work, you do need to do it for a minimum of 23 doses, I think (3 doses a day). Another one that totally works is low carb. I have to run right now, but will be back soon...
Gud morning...so I been reading alot of what you wrote to bookworm and I was wondering what is it that u recommand her to take for her to lose 8ponds in 8days! Thats amazing...i want try watever it is if its not to expenive.I been taking diet pills forever and the only that hd seem to work was hydrocut but u have to wrk out a ton, abd lipozene makes you have oily gas, and thats not good..lol so I could use some of your advice asap..i want to be that sexy body for the summer
in response to Bee's Knees...I appreciate your support, I really do..this means so much to me because I really want to get healthier and back to where I was pre-baby. I am proud to say I have been very strict with my eating. Its SO HARD because I cook alot and like to experiment for my family. I fried them catfish and fries and cornbread one night this week and about died from the smell!! ALso was running late and no time to cook and had to stop at McDonalds for my kids a few times and the smell of the fries almost made me give in but I reminded my self these are the steps I need to take to achieve this goal. I did happen to find my size 5-6 pants and clothing in my garage and some of my pants are still new so my goal is to get down to those sizes from where I am now (a 10) and that way I wont have to do a ton of shopping for new clothes.
Just weighed in , I am on day 8 and have lost a total of 8 pounds! Im very excited and thank yoiu again for all of your help!
Char
I am in the same shape as U!! But I believe if I help others it will come back my way one day!! Please let me know what I can do for U!! Find me as a Friend on FB! Marsha Cooper from Kite, Ga.
in response to PenelopeinPain...I totally agree with you.
He does have some nerve.
Some people just lack common sense.
Deep down you know what you have to do.
Most times, us females know that.
Many times, we just want confirmation or affirmation that we 'can do this'.
Its hard to walk away when we love someone.
But, in some instances one has to do what is best for them.
in response to bookworm2011...Wahooooooo!!!!!!!!!!! That is so great! I'm so glad to hear it! I'm proud of you! Now, just beware that your rate of loss may slow a little after the first week, but do not be discouraged and do not give up! Most importantly, do NOT listen to people trying to discourage you! Remember, if you cheat, it not only will slow down your loss, but if the cheat is great enough, it will cause you to gain. Some cheats cause a several lb gain and take 3 days to get back to where you were.
Also, if you hit a plateau, where you have stayed the same weight for several days, ditch the shrimp, oranges, and tomatoes, since they have been known to hold people up.
You can totally do this!!!!!!!!!!!!
Keep reporting back--please!
I love hearing about your success!
in response to ekikaseven...Of course Friday is pay day. So every week from the last pay-day, he almost always guess-timates that his check isn’t going to pay the bills. Years ago, he said that the three of us could to make it on $100 dollars. Back then, I knew he was a fool, but no, not these days. Our landlord sent a letter and he wrote one in response telling them we would catch up HOWEVER (as angry as I was, this was totally laughable) he responded and told them how much was going to be paid and what was going to be done the following week. He made it sound like “O.k. we’ll pay you and you’d better get ready to do some work on the house ASAP!” One, to that I say, “WHAT NERVE!” Secondly, we live in a city that is a small tourist town and our neighborhood is historic all the way back to the 1700’s. The house we live in is over 100 years old with few updated amenities. That coupled with the fact that it was vacant for 11 years before we moved in, it’s a pretty nice solid house. My husband just got a raise and I’m thinking he makes $16.00 or more an hour. I haven’t worked in almost 11 years, but I’m very sure I can make out a good budget and he would have money left over, or am I hopelessly delusional? We have a shouting match after I typed up and reworded the letter. He said he didn’t want to get fancy. He was threatening the landlord and he works with her. Why risk being put out on the streets because he has no human social skills?! The next argument will be the start of something awful, I plan on telling him that if he gets us evicted I’m done and whatever thoughts he has about me leaving I hope they comfort him because I’m tired of moving, I’m tired of being scared of waking up to no electricity, gas or food. He’s taken us through two evictions, two car repo’s (one because he didn’t like the way the lady at the car company talked to him, so he actually said, “I’m gonna fix them.” Huh? So every week, he pays for a car he does not own. He acts as if he’s never heard of late fees when a bill is doubled and in threat of disconnection. I have sense come to terms that I am married to a sociopathic nut-case. He wants everything in the world he doesn't deserve and if you don't give it to him after his schmoozing he actually will get angry and not talk to you anymore. . .some people have great nerve!
Good am! Just wanted to say I love this diet!!! I am not hungry at all and I have been on the diet one week. I have lost 6 pounds so far..thank you so much for the encouragement!
in response to PenelopeinPain...Check with Legal Aid.
If they don't do this sort of representation ask them if they know anyone who does this reasonable.
I do NOT know of anything else to tell you.
You are right, if he does not work a decent job your chances of getting alimony is almost nil.
in response to ekikaseven...What kind of attorney can I get on disability who's not going to tell me to just go for a no-fault divorce? I only receive $670 a month and I have no idea if I can even get alimony since that is my income. I don't think a judge would grant it to me even seeing evidence of money he would spend on himself.
in response to ekikaseven...I want to do more than leave him, I want a divorce with stipulations that he has to pay back money that he used "to keep up his image" as he once put it. He has told lies to his co-workers about me but never told them how he had become addicted to porno, had so much of it it stacked in the closet of our first apartment that it towered over our son at the time. Then he would buy them without me knowing using my checking account. My son is 17 and the only fault I take in him having the mind of an 8 year old is that I didn't put my foot down. In the fourth grade, his teacher told him that over the summer he should read 20 minutes a day. Well, his father said he didn't have to. Now he uses words he hears someone else say but doesn't know the meaning of. He can't conversate with adults because he can't find the words that he should have known when he was 12. My husband has single-handedly ruined two lives and my only fear is that my son is not self sufficient and lazier than the laziest alive because his father choose to do everything for him instead of teaching him how to do it himself. He can't even bathe properly. I fear for my child's future so much I cry. How do I correct that one??
I CANNOT TAKE IT ANYMORE!!! I am better off alone and I just cannot understand why NOBODY but me see's the position I have been in for so long! My stupid husband has been late and behind on the rent for the last 3 months, the landlord never charges us late fees and of course when this happens, he wants to run and just find places to live where I'm inconvenienced. I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis almost ten years ago. He was not here for a few weeks and said that he was going to change. I knew he was lying because his lips were moving. So not only does he return, he returns with outrageous debt IN MY NAME!! At 49 he will not grow up. I left myself months ago because of 14 years of mental abuse and I was so stupid to listen to people telling me I should go back home because he was crying about me leaving. I left because all those years included me working and him taking my entire check. I walked around with no coat and when I was suppose to get coat he buy's himself a coat. Then got mad because a co-worker and friend of mine buys me a coat. I hadn't bought anything for myself while I worked. Things like socks, underwear, coat, gloves, boots. We live in Michigan!!!! However he was always draped in gold, had color coordinated clothes, shoes, hats, the works. I have to wear things my son can fit including boots. There are times (like now) we don't have food to eat! He doesn't do drugs, so that isn't it. I had to stop him from loaning one of his crack head friends money!! Then I had to get it back from him only because hem left his cell phone at a mutual friends house! We loose things because he doesn't want to talk to someone and I will only talk to them once to tell them how he is. It's so addening!!!! I just want to live by myself because I know all of this would not happen and I would not be in this position. I know politicians are all for the family but this is one of many cases where IT WOULD BE BEST FOR THIS MAN TO LEAVE AND GET OUT OF MY LIFE!!!!
Hi, I m Mother of 3 and 3 Grandchildren, I also provide for my parent. I need money to catch up my bills and my rent. My land lord want to put use out. Please someone in God, help me
in response to JayR...Hi, JayR. If you tell your story briefly, on the main page, and list your specific needs, as well as becoming involved in our community by helping others in what ever way possible, (referring them to helpful info, etc...) someone may be able to help you.
Remember that many are here running scams, just to see what they can get for free and not willing to give anything back or work for anything for themselves.
The contributors must weed through all posts from all sorts, and make the best determination they can.
Many of us can only brainstorm with you to help you try to find a solution.
Only a few have the means to help with money.
We each do what we can.
There is no guarantee.
I wish you all the best.
Yaweh bless you!
Hi there!
my name is JayR and I'm new to this website and need someone that might can help me with how to get the best possible results on getting some immediate help! I'm just kinda reaching out right now
in response to bookworm2011...Go to YouTube. There are tons and tons of success stories about HCG. People who are negative about it are usually those who have not tried it and probably did not read the book. If you understand the science behind it, and especially if you try it, there is no way you can give it a thumbs down if you are really being honest. Pounds and Inches by ATW Simeons is the book. You can find a free download of it online from many sources.
I agree completely with you about not keeping tempting things in your house! That is the only way I can pull it off too! Also, sugar is poison for everyone. It is the most addictive drug. Nobody needs it, since it poops your immune system. It won't hurt the rest of the family to do without it!
in response to Bee's Knees...I am so happy to hear a success sotry from the diet..Ive been leary of it because you hear alot of negativity..but I think some people may not use it correctly as with all diets..thats terrible about the kidney stones I have heard they are more painful than being in labor! I too lost alot of weight with protein only but was really paranoid about the effects on my kidneys...I was doing great this year until the holidays rolled around..I really love to cook and bake so we made tons of cookies, breads and pies! Needless to say, I need to get back on the wagon myself..my philosophy is if its not in the house, I cant eat it..and I wont be tempted.. so back to our healthy diet :)
we didnt want to deprive the kids of the holiday treats but we are all pretty burnt out and going back to normal! Thanks for the encouragement, I am sure you are going to continue doing well with your new plan of attack!
Happy New Year!
char
